I was defrosting my mother’s chest FREEZER on a Tuesday morning, the way I have every spring for nine years.
And she came into that kitchen at a run — and my mother is seventy-eight and has not run for anything since my father.
“Put it back.”
I had it in both hands by then.
A parcel of FOIL from the very bottom, under the ice, at the back, where the peas have been since before my daughter was born.
It was not food. You know before you open it.
Foil goes soft over something soft and it stays hard over something with a shape, and this had a shape.
“What is this.”
She did not answer that. She stood in her own kitchen doorway with her glasses pushed up in her hair and her hand out flat, the way you hold a hand out to a dog you are not sure of.
I opened one corner. There was a SHOE in it.
A child’s shoe, a small one, the BUCKLE green with the years, the sole worn through on the outside edge the way my brother’s always went.
My brother has been dead for forty-one YEARS.
He was six, and I have been in that house every week of my life and I have never seen it.
It has been three feet from where she makes the TEA, in the cold, under the peas, for four decades.
“Put it back where it was.”
That is the thing she said.
Not what it was. Not whose.
Where it WAS.
Like there was a right place for it and I had disturbed it, and the disturbing was the problem, and if I would just put it back we could both go on exactly as before.
I asked her the only question I had.
“Whose shoe is this.”
And my mother, who has answered every question I have ever asked her, sat down at her own table.
Twenty past nine on a Tuesday
She sat there with her hands flat on the wood on either side of the placemat and she looked at the shoe and not at me.
Then she said it.
“It’s Neil’s. It was wet.”
That is the whole of it. That is forty-one years in five words. My brother’s shoe came into that house wet on a night in February 1985 and my mother could not put a wet thing away in a drawer and she could not put it in the bin, so she put it in the freezer the way you would put a bag of bread you meant to deal with later, and then it was three days, and then it was a year, and then I was forty-six years old standing at her sink with it in my hands.
I said, wet from what.
She did not answer that either. She got up, which took her two goes, and she filled the kettle, and she stood with her back to me and her hand on the tap for longer than filling a kettle takes.
The ice was going off the shoe in my hands. It came off in flakes, like fish scales, and it went down the front of me, and where it had melted the leather went dark and soft and smelled of nothing at all.
I have known since I was old enough to be told it that my brother died at the top of the road. The lane. Every version of it I have ever heard has him in the lane.
And the lane has been dry my whole life.
Neil
He was born in 1978 and I came in 1980, and there is one photograph of him in that house, on the shelf by the stairs, in a frame that has been polished so many times the gilt has gone off the corners.
He has a jumper on with a zip at the neck. He is squinting. That is all I have got.
There was never a rule about him. Nobody sat me down and said we don’t talk about Neil. It was just that every road you took toward him had something parked across it. You would say his name and my mother would ask if you wanted a top-up. You would say his name and my father would go out to the car.
I asked once, when I was about nineteen and full of myself and back from college with opinions, why we never went to see where he was. She said, “He’s not there, love, he’s in the ground,” and she said it in the voice she used for the gas man, and then she asked me about my course.
So I did what you do. I built him out of what I had. A boy who squints. A boy whose shoes went at the outside edge, which I know because my mother said it once about mine when I was seven, that I walked like Neil, that I’d have the side off them by Easter.
I have one other thing and I have never counted it as anything.
White ice. A stick in my hand, taller than me. Reeds going up out of the ice in a clump, all brown and broken over. And a feeling of being pleased with myself.
I was five. You do not keep anything from five. I have a memory of a red dog that never existed and my daughter Hannah has a memory of me putting her on a horse and I have never in my life put her on a horse.
Across the road there is Pauline, who is eighty-four now and who has lived in that house since before either of us, and who has never once in forty-one years said his name to me either.
The kettle got loud and then it clicked off and my mother did not move.
“Is the kettle on or not,” she said, to the window.
The towels on the radiator
Here is the thing I had never once thought about, and I want you to understand that I am not stupid, I do the books for a plumbing firm, I notice when a number is wrong.
Nine springs I have defrosted that freezer, and nine springs my mother has stood up the entire time.
She has a hip that has been telling her about itself since 2017. She sits down to peel potatoes. She sits down to talk on the phone. She sits down at the door to put her shoes on. And for two and a half hours every spring, while I take the baskets out and lay the towels down and go at the back wall with the plastic scraper she keeps in the drawer with the string, my mother stands in that kitchen with a tea towel in her hands, handing me dry ones off the radiator before I have asked for one.
I used to think it was pride. She would not have her daughter doing a job in her house while she sat.
This year the pharmacy van came at ten past nine and she went out to sign for it, and she was gone maybe four minutes, and that is how long it took me, because I have got faster at it every year.
And there is the other thing, which is money, and money I do understand.
That freezer is an upright chest thing from the nineties with a lid you have to lean on. It runs off an extension lead that comes under the hall door, because the socket in the kitchen went in 2003 and she has never had it seen to. I have told her twice to let me get someone in. She said the lead was fine.
Nine dollars a month, near enough, for a freezer that has eleven bags of peas in it and a bag of oven chips and some fish my father bought.
I worked it out that night on the back of an envelope, which is a stupid thing to do and I did it anyway. Something over four thousand dollars. She has spent four thousand dollars keeping one shoe cold.
And in 2019 the power went out for a day and a half after the storm, and I drove over with a torch and a flask, and I found my mother sitting on the kitchen floor with her back against the cupboards and one of the good duvets over the lid of the freezer, tucked in down the sides.
She said she didn’t want to lose everything in it.
I stood in her kitchen at eleven at night and I thought, God love her, she’s worried about her food.
She had eleven bags of peas in there and a shoe.
Pauline’s front step
I went across the road on the Thursday, which was a coward’s move, because it meant not asking my mother.
Pauline has one of those porches with the plastic seat in it and forty years of other people’s post on the ledge. She knew before I opened my mouth. She had the door on the chain and then she took it off the chain and did not ask me in.
I said, I found something in my mum’s freezer.
She said, “Oh.” Just that. And she put her hand up on the door frame.
Then she said the thing that took the floor out from under me, and she said it the way you’d say the bins hadn’t been.
“Is she still keeping that? After all this time.”
Still. Everybody knew. The whole of that road knew for forty-one years, and the one person on it who did not know was me, and I am the one who has been in that kitchen every week of my life.
I asked her about the lane.
Pauline looked at me for a good few seconds. She has cataracts and she looks at you like she is reading something at a distance.
“There’s no lane,” she said. “There was never any lane, love. It was the ditch at the bottom of your garden.”
The ditch. The one my father filled in with rubble and topsoil the summer I started school, that I have known my whole life as the bit of the lawn that sinks after rain, that Hannah used to lie down in on purpose to get her back wet because it made me shout.
I said, my dad. Everyone always said it was my dad’s fault. That he was meant to be watching him.
And Pauline said, “That’s what he let people say.”
Then she looked past me at my mother’s front window, and she said, “Did she tell you about the plank?”
And then she said she had a thing in the oven, and she shut the door.
The tea towel under the shoe
I did not go home. I went back over the road and let myself in with my own key and my mother was in the front room with the racing on and the sound down.
I put the shoe on the kitchen table on a folded tea towel and I sat down and I waited, and after a while she came in and stood in the doorway with her hand on the frame.
It had been out of the freezer four days by then, in a box in my car, and it had come all the way back to what it was. It smelled now. Not bad. Wet leather and cold water and something underneath that, and it was going through the tea towel and marking the table, and my mother looked at the ring it was making on her table and she sat down and she started talking and she did not stop for a long time.
She said it had rained for three days that February. She said the ditch at the bottom took the water off the whole row and it came up over the reeds and then it froze on the top the way it does, hard on top and moving underneath.
She said my father had a plank across it. He had put it there in the autumn to get the mower over and he had said four times he would take it up.
She said Neil went down the garden in his coat and his shoes at some point between her going to answer the phone to her own mother and her putting the pan on. She said she does not know how long. She has never known how long, and she said that is the part she would give her hands to know, and I did not understand that then and I do now.
She said he was in the water when she got to him and the plank was in the water with him.
She said, “He had one shoe on. That’s all. He had the one shoe on him and I never found the other one and I looked for it. I was out there in the dark looking in the water for a shoe.”
She said your father came home and he took it off me. She said he told his own brother it was him that left the plank, and it was him that left the plank, but that was not the same as it being his fault and he let it be the same, for me, for thirty years, and then he died on the drive and I could not tell him I knew what he’d done for me.
I said, why is it in the freezer.
And she looked at me like I had asked her why the sky was up.
“It was wet, Julie. That’s all it was, the first night.”
The stick
I told her about the ice.
I have never said it out loud to anybody, not to Hannah, not to my husband, because it is not a story, it is four things: white ice, a stick, the reeds, and being pleased with myself.
I said, I think I showed him where it held. I think I took a stick down there and I stood on it by the reeds and it held me and I called him.
I said, I was five and I weighed nothing.
My mother put both her hands over her mouth. She kept them there. And then she took them down and she talked more in the next ten minutes than she has talked to me about my brother in my entire adult life.
She said, “You told me that night.”
She said I told her in the hall with my coat still on, and I said it twice, and I said the word held, and she said she took me up the stairs and she put me in her own bed and she told me I had had a dream. She said she told me the next day too. She said she told me every time it came up for about a year, and by the time I was seven I was telling her, and she said, “You’d say, I had that dream again, and I’d say yes, love, and I’d change the sheets.”
She said, “You were five. You were five years old and you’d have had it the rest of your life.”
She said she did not decide to do it. She said there was no sitting down and deciding, there was a girl in a coat in the hall at half six at night and one thing to say to her.
I said, and the freezer.
She said the freezer was the same. She said she put it in there the first night because it was wet and she was not going to hang her son’s shoe on the radiator next to the towels, and then she could not open the lid, and then a year went by, and then she got frightened of the day somebody found it, so she put it at the bottom and she started buying peas.
Eleven bags. The week Hannah was born, so there would be a wall in front of it that anybody who opened that lid would give up at.
She said, “And you never went past them. Nine years and you never went past them.”
Then she said, “Put it back where it was,” again, and this time she was not telling me. Her chin was going. She said it the way you say a thing you have said so many times it comes out on its own.
I did not put it back.
I put my hand flat on the table next to hers, not on it, and I said his name out loud in that kitchen, which I do not think had happened in there in twenty years.
Then I said, we are not doing the cold any more.
The lid propped open
Three Tuesdays later Hannah and I got the freezer out of the utility.
It took the two of us and a lot of swearing and one gouge out of the door frame that I will fill and she will notice anyway. It is at the tip now. The peas went in the bin, all eleven bags, and my mother stood at the sink with her back to us the whole time and then turned round and said the bags were still good and Hannah said, Nan, they’re from 2004, and my mother laughed. Actually laughed, with her hand up.
The socket in the kitchen is getting done on the fourteenth. Ninety dollars. I booked it in her name and I am paying it and she knows and neither of us has said so.
The shoe is in the sideboard drawer in the front room, in the warm, on a folded pillowcase, at the height where she keeps the good cutlery. She has cleaned the buckle with vinegar and a bit of newspaper and it has come up half bright and stayed green in the pin, and she gets it out. That is the thing. She gets it out and puts it on her knee while the racing is on with the sound down.
Last Tuesday I came in and the drawer was open and the shoe was on her knee and the room smelled of the disinfectant she has used since 1985.
I picked it up to put it away and she said, “Leave it out. It wants the air.”
If this one got to you, send it to somebody whose mother keeps a thing nobody is allowed to ask about. Then go and ask yours, while she is still sat at that table.
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