We’re 10 years married.

I’m infertile. My husband’s best friend, Leah, is pregnant. She asked my husband to be her birth partner and put his name on the birth certificate.

I said, “No, you can’t do it!” He said I’m a monster.

Next day, to my shock, I found out that Leah has made him the godfather anyway—without even telling me.

I thought that was the end of it, but then… I saw the texts. Not on my husband’s phone. On my brother’s.

Let me back up a little.

My name’s Rina. I’m 41. My husband, Matías, and I have been married ten years. I’ve known since I was 34 that I can’t carry a pregnancy. My uterus is shaped in a way that makes it high-risk, and after a couple of miscarriages and years of trying everything, we stopped.

It hurt like hell. I grieved like someone had died. Matías always said he just wanted me, not babies. That we’d have a beautiful life anyway. We threw ourselves into traveling, hosting our niece and nephew during school holidays, volunteering. And I believed we were okay. I thought we were.

Then came Leah.

She’s been his best friend since college. They lived on the same dorm floor. She’s funny, loud, the type who enters a room like a marching band. I’d never felt threatened by her. They’d never dated, just leaned on each other through breakups, job losses, bad apartments.

She was around a lot more in the last year.

Leah had a messy split with some guy she’d been seeing on and off. Around that time, she started doing IVF as a solo mom. Matías drove her to a couple of appointments, helped her move when she downsized to save for the baby. I was fine with it—until she got pregnant.

That’s when it all changed.

One night, she came over for dinner, laid her hands on her belly like it was a crown, and blurted out: “So, I want Matías to be in the delivery room. I can’t imagine doing this without him.”

I must have blinked ten times.

Then she added, “And I’m listing him on the birth certificate. Just as a chosen family thing. It’s symbolic.”

Matías was sitting there. Not looking at me. Not saying a word.

I said, “Wait, what?”

She tried to wave it off like it was sweet and no big deal. But it was a big deal. I’d spent ten years grieving the idea of Matías having a child. Now suddenly he was someone else’s “symbolic” co-parent?

I waited until she left, then I told him straight: “No. You can’t do this. You can’t be her birth partner. You can’t put your name down like you’re the dad.”

He didn’t hesitate.

He said, “You’re being selfish. She needs support. It’s not her fault you can’t have kids.”

That line… split me open.

I asked him if he wanted to be the father. He swore no. Said it was just Leah being dramatic. “It’s ceremonial,” he kept saying. But if it meant nothing, why was he so angry when I said no?

We didn’t talk the rest of the night.

The next day, I got a call from my sister-in-law. “Did you see Leah’s post?” she asked.

Leah had put up a big Instagram story, tagging Matías as her baby’s godfather, with a caption like: “He’s the only man I’d want by my side when she comes into the world 💗.”

I hadn’t even known they’d chosen godparents yet.

He hadn’t told me.

He’d gone behind my back and said yes anyway. I sat in our bedroom staring at the screen, feeling like the floor was gone. Ten years. Ten years of loss and hope and holding onto each other. And now I was being cut out of a story that should’ve been ours.

I didn’t confront him right away.

Instead, I went to my mom’s for a few days. I needed air. While I was there, my younger brother, Naveen, came by. He’s six years younger than me and barely says three words at family events. But that afternoon, he pulled me aside and said something that knocked the wind out of me.

He said, “I’ve been meaning to tell you. Leah’s been messaging me.”

I blinked. “What?”

“She said you and Matías were having problems, and she wanted someone to talk to. But… it got weird.”

He showed me the texts.

And sure enough, there they were: long, rambling late-night messages from Leah. She was complaining about Matías not taking her seriously. Then hinting at how “lost” he felt in our marriage. Saying things like, “It’s hard watching someone you love settle for less.”

She even tried to ask my brother out. Said she always had “a thing” for guys with quiet intensity.

He never responded. Just hearted a few messages to be polite. But he screenshotted everything, just in case.

I stared at the phone. My skin buzzed like it was full of bees. So this wasn’t about needing support. Leah was testing every angle. Grooming my husband. Fishing around in my family.

When I got home, Matías barely looked up from the couch.

I sat down, dropped the phone in front of him, and said, “Read it.”

He scrolled through. Didn’t say anything for a full minute.

Then finally: “I didn’t know about this.”

“Are you sure about that?” I asked.

He went quiet again. But something broke in his face. That defensive wall he’d been holding up—gone. He looked scared. And small.

“She told me you were fine with everything,” he said. “That you wanted to stay out of it because it was too painful.”

“What?”

“She said you told her to lean on me. That you needed space.”

I couldn’t even form words. She’d been manipulating both of us. Playing therapist with him, playing victim with my brother, playing saint on Instagram.

That night, he finally admitted what I’d feared.

He hadn’t slept with her. But he’d considered it. In some lonely part of himself, the idea of fatherhood—even symbolically—made him feel chosen. Manly. Whole again. And Leah knew exactly how to dangle that in front of him.

We agreed to couples counseling.

It wasn’t easy. Some weeks, I wanted to scream at him across the table. Other weeks, I hated how much I missed what we used to be.

And then something unexpected happened.

My aunt Lira, who’d lived in Goa for years, passed away and left behind a small house. She’d never had kids. But she’d always had a soft spot for me. In her will, she left me her property—with one condition.

It had to be used for “family.” Not rented. Not flipped.

It lit something in me I hadn’t felt in years.

I talked to Matías. Told him I was going. Just for the summer. To think. He asked if he could come. I said only if he was ready to show up as a husband, not a maybe-dad to every woman who offered him a fantasy.

He came.

We spent that summer rebuilding the house—painting shutters, clearing vines, sleeping under fans. We talked more in those three months than we had in the past three years. No Leah. No therapists. Just honesty.

And then, two weeks before we were set to leave, something wild happened.

A local woman named Kavita, who helped us with groceries, showed up one morning with her niece. The girl was about ten, shy, and clung to her arm. Kavita said she was looking for help—temporary foster care. The girl’s parents had been in a bus accident. She had no one.

They were hoping to keep her in the community, not send her to the city.

I don’t know what made us say yes. We weren’t certified. We had no plan. But I saw the way Matías looked at her—like she wasn’t a symbol of parenthood, but a person. A scared, funny, stubborn person who needed a safe place.

We stayed another six months.

And when her extended family finally stepped in, I cried harder saying goodbye to her than I had for anything in years.

Matías cried too. Silently. But I saw it.

We went home different.

Leah’s baby had been born while we were away. She sent one vague group message with a photo, no name, no follow-up. I haven’t spoken to her since. Neither has my brother. Matías eventually unfollowed her. Quietly.

We never went back to “trying.” But something shifted.

A year later, we signed up to be respite foster carers—short term. Weekend help for families who need breathing room. It’s not forever. It’s not always smooth. But it’s real. And it’s ours.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

Parenthood isn’t biology.
Marriage isn’t performance.
And love isn’t a prize you win by being “whole” or “chosen” or fertile.

Sometimes, the most broken thing in your life is exactly where the light gets in.

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