A father is feeling shattered and seeking advice online after his girlfriend of several years expressed that she doesn’t want his 11-year-old daughter to be present at their wedding.

The distressed dad shared his story on Reddit, revealing that his fiancée, whom he has been with for five years, doesn’t want his daughter from a previous relationship to attend the wedding.

“I have a daughter (P) from an earlier marriage. My ex-wife and I ended on good terms, and we both have 50/50 custody of P, who is now 11. After parting ways with my ex-wife, I met my current fiancée (S),” he recounted.

The couple enjoyed a five-year relationship, during which the father was pleased with the positive dynamic between his fiancée and his daughter.

Upon proposing, S accepted, and they enthusiastically began to organize their wedding festivities.

“S was quick to find venues and started asking her friends to be her bridesmaids. She also mentioned wanting her niece as a flower girl, which I was okay with. However, I expressed that I wanted P to be a flower girl too. S gave me an odd look and remarked that she didn’t think P would ‘fit the role,’” he continued.

Anger surged within the father when he heard what his fiancée had to say.

“I was infuriated and told S that my daughter was definitely going to be part of our wedding,” he declared.

“S became distressed, insisting that it was up to her to decide which girls would partake in the wedding, and P wasn’t among them. I retaliated by saying that if P wasn’t included, perhaps there wouldn’t be a wedding at all. I then left and took P out for ice cream to diffuse my frustration.”

The news of the fiancee’s choice startled many on Reddit, who went on to describe her as a clear ‘red flag.’

One individual commented: “This is a major red flag. If she excludes her stepdaughter from the wedding, she’s unlikely to welcome her into her broader life…”

Another shared their thoughts, “S has made her true feelings about P known to you. It’s essential to have those dearest to you involved in your wedding. That your fiancée, who I assume is having her first wedding, doesn’t think your daughter is part of that important group speaks volumes to me.”

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