After I broke up with my ex, I’d constantly run into him around town. To get away, I moved to another country. It seems he didn’t give up easily. One day, I stumbled across him at a café. To my shock, he came up to me, saying, “Adira, I came all this way to apologize. I’ve changed.”

At first, I just laughed. Out loud. I thought it was some bizarre prank, like he’d followed me for content or something. We weren’t talking about some cute teenage romance. We were together for nearly four years. He cheated on me. Twice that I know of. Once with a girl from his gym, and another time—this one hurt worse—with someone I knew. A coworker I considered a friend.

His name’s Jalen. He’s charming, ridiculously charming, in that smooth-talker way that feels like a massage for your ego until you realize you’re being played. And after the second betrayal, I blocked him on everything. Changed my number. Quietly packed up my apartment in Toronto and moved to Lisbon with two suitcases and a desperate craving for peace.

So seeing him in the Bairro Alto district of all places? I honestly froze. The café was quiet, a little tucked-away spot I’d found after work. He looked older somehow. Not in a bad way—just like life had finally roughed him up a bit. I blinked and said, “You’re joking. How did you even find me?”

He smiled, holding a coffee in both hands like it gave him credibility. “I didn’t track you, I swear. Your friend Maren posted a photo of you at this square a few weeks ago. It stuck in my head. I had some vacation days, and… I don’t know. I kept thinking about everything I ruined.”

Maren. Of course. I hadn’t even thought twice about that post. She visited for ten days, and I tagged her in a couple of shots, but she’d posted way more. I felt a weird mix of panic and nausea. He flew across an ocean because he saw a photo?

“That’s not normal, Jalen,” I said, shaking my head. “You don’t get to just pop up in my new life like this.”

“I know. I don’t expect anything. I just… I hoped maybe we could talk.”

I should’ve walked away. Honestly. But some twisted curiosity got the better of me. We sat outside, on these metal chairs with peeling paint, while Lisbon’s late summer sun hung low and buttery over the city.

He started rambling about therapy. How he’d been going weekly. How he’d stopped drinking. How his mom had a health scare that forced him to take a long, hard look at himself. How he couldn’t stop thinking about how badly he’d treated me. He didn’t cry, but his voice cracked once or twice.

I didn’t say much. Just listened. Nodded. Sipped my espresso. My heart wasn’t racing like it used to around him. That was the weirdest part. It was like hearing someone tell a story about your own life, but in a language you barely remembered.

Before he left, he asked if I’d meet him again. “Just once more,” he said. “You don’t owe me anything, but I’d really appreciate it.”

I told him I’d think about it. And then I didn’t sleep the entire night.

The thing is—Lisbon had been good for me. I’d gotten a job teaching English at a small private school. Nothing glamorous, but it paid the bills and gave me structure. I had my routines. My favorite fruit lady at the market. The elderly man who played violin outside my apartment building every Sunday morning. I was finally settling.

But something about seeing Jalen again stirred up all these pieces of myself I thought I’d buried. Regret. Anger. That soft ache of nostalgia. I didn’t miss him, exactly. I missed the idea of someone who could’ve been good to me if he’d just tried.

I agreed to meet him the next afternoon near the coast. We walked along the beach at Carcavelos, waves slapping at the shore and families laughing all around us. He told me more about his life now—how he quit his marketing job to freelance, how he’d moved back in with his dad for a bit to save money. It all sounded very… humble. Very not-him.

“So what’s the goal here, Jalen?” I asked, stopping to squint at him in the sun. “You want me to forgive you? Get back together? What?”

He didn’t answer right away. Just picked up a smooth stone and tossed it toward the water. “I want you to see that I’m not the same man who hurt you.”

That line—it caught me off guard. Because for once, it didn’t sound rehearsed. It sounded raw.

We kept meeting over the next week. Always in public places. Always casual. I didn’t tell anyone, not even Maren, because I didn’t want the judgment. I wasn’t falling for him again. I was just… watching. Testing.

And then, one night, we ended up at this little bar with fado music playing, low and mournful. He reached across the table, hand brushing mine. “Do you think there’s a world where we try again?”

My stomach flipped. I didn’t know what scared me more—how badly I’d wanted to hear those words once upon a time, or how now… I didn’t trust them.

Still, I didn’t say no. Not yet.

The next morning, I was on my way to the grocery store when I saw it. His phone. He left it at my place accidentally, and it buzzed with a message from someone named “Lilia 💋.”

I stared at it for a full minute. That emoji. That name. I didn’t know her, but my gut told me everything.

I waited. Picked up the phone. Opened the message. I know, I know—privacy, trust, all of that. But trust is a currency he’d already burned through with me.

The message said: “Can’t stop thinking about last weekend. When are you back? 😘”

My blood went cold. He’d only been here a week. “Back” where? With her?

I scrolled. Not proud of it, but I needed to know. Their thread went back months. She lived in Amsterdam. He’d visited her two weekends before showing up here. Sweet talk. Sexy talk. Pet names.

I felt like someone poured ice water straight into my spine.

When he came by that afternoon to grab his phone, I didn’t say anything. Not right away. I handed it to him and watched his face. He looked tired. Or guilty. Maybe both.

I said, “How’s Lilia?”

His eyes snapped up to mine so fast it was almost funny. “What?”

“Lilia. You know. The one who can’t wait for you to come back.”

Silence.

I watched him squirm for a moment before he dropped the act.

“Okay,” he said softly. “It’s not what it looks like.”

That line again. Classic. I almost laughed.

“She’s just… it was before I came here. I didn’t know if you’d even speak to me.”

“So you came here hoping to reconnect with me while someone else’s lips are still warm on your skin?”

He winced. I think he hated how accurate that sounded.

“I didn’t sleep with her the night before I came here, if that’s what you’re asking,” he said, like that was supposed to earn him a medal.

I shook my head. “You don’t get it. You keep thinking your problem is the cheating. It’s not. It’s the lying. The double life. The need to be adored, no matter the cost.”

He tried to defend himself. Tried to say something about how hard he was trying to change. I let him talk. I just didn’t believe a word anymore.

The next day, I blocked him. Again. For the last time.

I didn’t cry this time. I didn’t even feel angry. Just… relieved. Like I’d finally passed a test I’d been failing for years.

But here’s where the twist comes in.

About a month later, I was helping organize a fundraiser at the school where I worked. One of the volunteers was this woman named Saida—warm smile, sharp wit, and eyes that seemed to see right through people.

She was Portuguese-Moroccan, in her late 30s, divorced, with a daughter in the second grade. We hit it off immediately. At first, it was just friendly. Coffee after meetings. Venting about life.

Then, one day, she invited me to a family barbecue. Her family was big and chaotic and loud in the best way. Her mother hugged me like we’d known each other forever. Her brothers teased her in rapid-fire Arabic and Portuguese. Her daughter clung to my hand like I was a favorite cousin.

That night, sitting under string lights and sipping sangria, Saida turned to me and said, “You know… you’re not who I expected when I first met you. You seem calm. Like someone who’s been through the storm and decided never to go back.”

That stuck with me.

We became more than friends a few months after that. Slow and quiet and real. No declarations. No drama. Just showing up for each other, every day.

Jalen? I heard through the grapevine he got back with Lilia. They moved in together. But two months later, she found messages from someone else and kicked him out.

Some people never change.

But me? I did. Not for him. For me.

Sometimes, the full-circle moment isn’t about getting back what you lost—it’s about realizing you never needed it to begin with.

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