Every Tuesday for two years I drove the old man next door to the pharmacy for ONE lipstick, always the same shade, and this Tuesday he got in my car, said cemetery, and set a paper bag in my lap — too heavy for one lipstick.
My mother has been in that cemetery since 2009. Walt Cobb knew her row before I did.
In two years he never said who the lipstick was for. And I never asked.
He lost his license in 2024 when the Buick went through the Kowalskis’ mailbox, and I said I’d drive him.
He needed the pharmacy on Tuesdays. Nothing else, ever.
He paid in exact change while my youngest kicked the back of his seat.
The girl at the counter said the name of it out loud once. Cherries in the Snow.
My mother’s last tube of that is in a Ziploc in my bathroom drawer.
Half the women in this county over sixty wore that red. I let it go.
That fall the same girl said, “He’s been buying it since before I started here. Way before the license.”
His wife wore coral. Marjorie, buried on the new side in 2023. I did her hair for the viewing.
I’ve been in his kitchen a hundred times. There is not a tube of anything in that house.
This Tuesday.
“Not the pharmacy,” he said. “Cemetery.”
I turned toward the new side, toward Marjorie.
“Other side. By the fence. Row nine, third from the road.”
I put the car in park in the middle of the road.
Row nine, third from the road, is KATHLEEN. I don’t need the stone to know it.
The bag was on my knees. I looked in.
Not one lipstick.
Tubes to the top. Not one opened. A Tuesday in pencil on the bottom of every cap.
A HUNDRED AND FOUR.
Every Tuesday I drove him. For a woman SEVENTEEN YEARS gone.
He looked at the fence, not at me.
“The ones before you, she got. I walked them out here myself. These she’s still owed.”
“Put them on her,” he said. “All of them. And then you go home and ask your father which one of us picked that shade.”
Row nine, third from the road
I carried the bag. He stayed at the car with his hand on the door frame, because the old side has no drive lane and it’s a quarter mile of uneven ground from the road, and his knees have been done since the year of the mailbox.
I set the tubes on the base of the stone in rows of ten. They wouldn’t stand on the grass. Ten and ten and ten, and the last four across the top like a fence.
Then I walked back and stood in front of him and said, “Which one of you?”
“Me,” he said. “The shade was me.”
He said it the way you’d say you put the trash out. No air went out of him. He kept his hand on the door frame and looked past me at the row.
“Nineteen seventy-nine, at the Rexall on Third. Your dad gave me a dollar and told me get her the red one. There were nine reds. I picked.”
My mother married my father in April of 1980. There are pictures. In every one of them her mouth is that color.
“Then why do I have to ask him,” I said, “if you already know?”
He got in the car and shut the door himself, which he never does, and sat there with his seatbelt across his chest while I stood in the road.
Marjorie’s hair
I do hair out of the back room at my house, three chairs’ worth of business in a two-chair town, and in November of 2023 Walt Cobb knocked on my door with a photograph of his wife from a cruise in 1998 and asked if I could make her look like that.
I said I could try.
I did Marjorie at the funeral home on a Thursday morning. Coral lipstick, the one from her purse, because that’s what he handed me in a sandwich bag. Peach comb-out, soft, nothing lacquered. He stood in the doorway of that little room with his hat in both hands and said, “That’s her,” and went out to the parking lot.
I know what a widower looks like. I’ve had my hands in the hair of eleven of them since I started.
He didn’t ask me to drive him then. That came the next spring, after the Buick and the mailbox, when I brought over a casserole nobody eats and he said, straight out, no shuffling, “Tuesdays. Pharmacy. I’ll pay the gas.”
He never took a dime off me for gas because I never let him get it out of the tin.
That’s the thing I want you to hold on to. He carried his money in a green mint tin with a hinge, quarters and dimes and one folded bill, and every Tuesday he counted it out on the counter to the penny before the girl had finished ringing.
My father counts nothing. My father writes. He puts the date in pencil on the underside of everything he owns — the water heater, the lid of every jar my mother ever canned, the back of the smoke detector in the hall. Little block numbers with the year first. I grew up finding them.
Seventeen years he’s lived nine minutes from row nine. He has not gone through that gate since the day of the burial. He drives to the Legion, he drives to Bucyrus for tires, he goes around the long way on Mill so he doesn’t pass the fence.
I have asked him twice. Both times he asked me if I wanted coffee.
The green tin
For two years the Tuesdays were the same and I never looked at them.
Nine forty. He’s on the step with his hat on. My youngest, Hank, in the car seat behind him kicking, because Hank kicks. Eleven minutes to the pharmacy. Walt goes in alone and comes out with a bag the size of a deck of cards and gets in and holds it on his lap the whole way home and never once opens it.
Deanna Pruitt has been behind that counter since 2016. She’s the one who said the name out loud, and the one who said he’d been buying it since before her. In August I went in for Hank’s amoxicillin and she leaned over the register while the machine was thinking.
“He was in Saturday too,” she said. “That’s new.”
“Saturday for what?”
“Same thing. Except he asked me if we had the old case. The metal one.” She made a face like she was sorry to be the one saying it. “We haven’t had that case since I was in school.”
The old case. Nineteen seventy-nine had a metal case.
That night I sat in the driveway with the engine off and did the math I’d been not doing for two years. Fifty-two Tuesdays a year, seventeen years since 2009, plus whatever came before that. Thousands of dollars of drugstore red on a fixed income and a Social Security check, and none of it in his house.
I have been in that kitchen a hundred times. I’ve been in the drawer where he keeps the rubber bands.
The next Tuesday I did a thing I’m not going to dress up. I went in the pharmacy behind him and stood at the end of the greeting cards with a basket, and I watched him take one tube off the rack without looking at the rack, the way you take a fork out of your own drawer. He didn’t compare. He didn’t check the little sticker. He put it on the counter and opened the tin.
On the way home I said, “Walt, you can tell me who she is.”
He said, “It’s a nice day for October.”
Marjorie’s sewing room still has her machine in it and her spool rack on the wall with the thread going light to dark, and the year she was dying he called me over twice to sit with her while he went to the bank. I sat with that woman. I trimmed her bangs in a hospital bed with a pillowcase over her shoulders. If there was a bad marriage in that house I’d have felt it in the room, and there wasn’t. He rubbed her feet through the blanket and complained about the parking.
So where were they going.
I put Hank down and drove out to the cemetery at nine at night with a flashlight like a woman losing it, and I walked the quarter mile from the road in flats, and I got on my knees at row nine and put my hand in the grass at the foot of the stone.
The sod there is not sod. It’s loose, all along the base, the way dirt gets when something’s been worked into it over and over.
Three inches down my fingers found a gold case. Then another. Then I stopped counting and sat back on my heels with the flashlight in my lap.
The county mows that side on the first and the fifteenth.
My father’s kitchen, Thursday
I went to my father on the Thursday with dirt still under two nails.
He was at the table with the tackle box open, tying something he wasn’t going to fish with, and he poured me coffee before I sat down.
I said, “Walt Cobb buys my mother a lipstick every week.”
He didn’t put the line down. He set it across his knee and looked at the window over the sink for a while, and then he said, “That’s between him and her.”
“She’s been dead seventeen years.”
“I know how long she’s been dead,” he said. “I don’t need you to run the clock for me.”
Then he asked if I wanted a piece of the pie Sherry from the Legion had brought, and I said no, and he cut me a piece anyway and set it down and sat back with his arms crossed.
“Quit driving him.”
“What?”
“Tell him your car’s down. Tell him whatever.” He was still looking at the window. “You’ve got two kids and a business and you’re hauling an old man around on his errands. Let his people do it.”
Walt has no people. Marjorie was his people, and one son in Arizona who came for the viewing and left before the meal.
I told my father I’d found tubes in the ground out there. Buried, dozens of them, worked into the dirt at the base of her stone where the mower couldn’t take them.
He picked the coffee up and put it down without drinking any.
“Under her name?”
“At the bottom of the stone.”
“That’s a thing to do to a person’s grave,” he said, and it came out with nothing behind it, like a man reading a warning label. Then he asked me whether Hank was over his ear infection, and how Dale’s shoulder was, and whether I’d got the gutters done before the leaves, three questions in a row from a man who calls me twice a year.
I said that. My father said, “Then he’ll figure it out,” and got up and put his cup in the sink and stood with his back to me and his hands on the edge of the counter, and I looked at the tackle box he’d left open on the table.
The top tray had hooks, swivels, a spool of eight-pound line, and a green mint tin with a hinge.
I said, “Dad, where’s your tin?”
He said, “Eat your pie.”
The pencil
I drove home from the cemetery this Tuesday with Walt in the passenger seat and the empty paper bag folded on the console between us. He didn’t talk. He got out at his step and said thank you, ma’am, which he has said a hundred and four times, and went in and the storm door banged.
I went inside my own house and stood in the kitchen and then I turned around and went back out, and I drove the nine minutes to the cemetery for the second time in one day, and I walked the quarter mile again and I picked one tube off the base of that stone.
I sat down in the grass and turned it over.
11 / 24 T. Year first. Little block numbers, pressed hard enough to shine the plastic.
I picked up another one. 3 / 25 T. Another. 6 / 26 T.
Same hand on every cap. The same hand that’s on the underside of the water heater in my father’s basement and on the lid of every jar of my mother’s tomatoes still on that shelf, the same hand that wrote K. 4/80 inside the cover of the photo album, in pencil, because my father has never in his life used a pen on anything he loved.
Walt Cobb didn’t write those Tuesdays.
I put four tubes in my coat pocket and left the rest standing on the stone and I got in the car with grass on both knees, and I did not go home.
The porch on Mill
My father was on the back porch with the light on and the radio going low, the way he sits until eleven every night of the world.
I put the four tubes on the table in front of him.
He looked at them a long time. Then he picked one up and turned it over and read his own handwriting like it was a bill he’d forgotten to pay.
“He wasn’t supposed to give you the bag,” he said.
“He gave me a hundred and four.”
That got him. He put the tube down and sat forward.
“A hundred and four,” he said. “A hundred and four.” He rubbed his mouth. “I’ve been putting the money in his mailbox since the week we buried her. Every Sunday night. Sixteen dollars and change, then eighteen, then whatever it costs now, I never asked, I just kept putting it in. And he took it every week and he walked it out there for me and I sat in this chair.”
“Dad —”
“Don’t.” He held his hand up. “You let me get through it.”
The radio was doing the farm report. He turned it off with his thumb.
“Nineteen seventy-nine I was twenty-two years old and I couldn’t go in that store,” he said. “Couldn’t. I stood on the sidewalk and Walt went in with my dollar. He came out with that one. She wore it that Friday and she wore it every day after that for thirty years, and I let her think I picked it, and I let him watch me let her think it.”
“So he picked it.”
“He picked it,” my father said. “And I married her, and he stood up in the church, and he married Marjorie, and none of the four of us ever said one word about any of it, and then she got sick.” He put both hands flat on the table. “And when she was going, she asked me for it. In the hospital. And I couldn’t get up out of the chair to go get it. Couldn’t do that either.”
He looked at the tubes.
“So he got it. He’s been getting it ever since. That was the arrangement and I have not been able to look at that man in the eye since two thousand and nine.”
“He couldn’t walk it out there anymore,” I said. “Since the license. It’s a quarter mile from the road.”
My father sat back.
“He never said.”
“He wouldn’t have to tell you what you’d know if you went.”
That’s the only hard thing I said to him, and I’m not proud of it, and it sat there on the porch with the moths.
Then the gravel went and headlights came up the drive, and Walt Cobb got out of a Sharpsburg taxi that costs thirty dollars from our road, in his hat, with his hand out for the porch post.
He came up the two steps like they cost him something and stood at the end of the table and looked at the four gold cases and then at my father.
“Ray,” he said. “She wore it for you.”
My father’s chin went and he put his hand over his eyes and held it there.
Walt sat down in the other chair without being asked and said, “Thursday they take a piece of my lung out at Lima. I didn’t want to leave a hundred and four of them in my closet for that boy in Arizona to throw in a dumpster.”
Nobody said anything for a minute. Then my father asked him, in the voice he uses for the tire place, what time Thursday, and who was driving him.
Walt tipped his head at me.
“She is,” my father said. “And so am I.”
The Tuesday after
They took the piece of lung on the Thursday. Walt was home the following Wednesday with an oxygen concentrator in Marjorie’s sewing room and a list of things he isn’t allowed to lift.
Yesterday was Tuesday. I picked up my father at nine forty and Walt at nine fifty and Hank was in the back kicking the seat, and Walt said the same thing he always says about Hank, which is that a boy has to kick something.
The bag came back to my lap at the cemetery, light as anything. One tube in it. Deanna rang it up and my father counted it out of the green tin, to the penny, while she waited.
He got out at the road and looked at the quarter mile of uneven ground and then he went, ahead of both of us, in his church shoes.
At row nine he got down on one knee, which took him a while, and pressed it into the dirt at the base of the stone with his thumb.
“Give me the pencil,” he said.
If this one got to you, send it to somebody who’s been driving an old neighbor around for years and never asked what the errand was.
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