Our Roommate Moved In With Four Kids—Now She Expects Us To Be Their Maids

When we agreed to share the house, it felt fair. Three adults, split rent, everyone pulls their weight. My partner and I are both 20, working hard just to stay afloat. The roommate? She’s 35, single mom of four.

We didn’t blink when we found out about the kids—ages 14 down to 3. “We’ve got boundaries,” we told her. “We’re good with quiet, and we keep to ourselves.”

And for the first few months, it was fine. Loud, sure. But manageable.

Until the messes started.

Crumbs on the couch. Crayon marks on the wall. Cereal bowls in the sink for days.

At first I cleaned quietly. Figured she was overwhelmed. But then it became routine.

My three days off? Suddenly filled with wiping jelly off counters and fishing toys out of the toilet.

One night, I came home from my shift and found a note on the fridge. Not a “thank you.” Not an apology.

A chore list. With my name on it.

Including:
— Vacuum playroom
— Wipe down high chair
— Fold laundry

I lost it.

I texted her, asking why we were expected to clean up after her children.

She replied:
“You’re home more. And they look up to you. It takes a village.”

I showed my partner. He just stared at the screen and said, “We’re not her village.”

The next morning, she brought the kids into our room—uninvited—and said, “Ask them why they don’t want to help anymore.”

And the youngest looked up at me and said—
“Did we do something bad?”

That broke me.

I wasn’t mad at the kids. They were sweet, just loud and messy. I crouched down and said gently, “No, baby. You didn’t do anything wrong.”

But their mom just stood behind them, arms crossed like she was watching a courtroom scene. I glanced up at her and said, “This isn’t okay. You’re putting them in the middle.”

She scoffed. “You just don’t understand how hard it is to raise kids.”

I stood up and looked her in the eye. “You’re right. I don’t. But it’s your job, not mine.”

She grabbed the 3-year-old’s hand and muttered something under her breath as she walked out. That night, my partner and I talked for hours. We were both exhausted—physically, mentally, emotionally.

We had no peace in our own home. No space. No boundaries. And now, no respect.

So we started looking for a new place.

But the rental market was brutal. Everything we could afford was either falling apart or way out of town. We felt stuck.

And then something unexpected happened.

A few days later, I came home early and overheard her oldest—14, sharp as a tack—talking to his mom in the kitchen.

“Why do you treat them like nannies?” he asked.

She snapped back, “Because they have no idea how much I do! I need help.”

“But they didn’t sign up to be our parents.”

I quietly stepped back into the hallway before they saw me. That night, I couldn’t stop thinking about what he’d said.

A week passed. Nothing changed. The lists kept coming. The messes multiplied. And then my partner’s laptop went missing.

We searched the whole house. Nothing.

He asked the kids gently if they’d seen it, but they shook their heads.

I wasn’t convinced. The toddler had spilled orange juice on our controller two weeks earlier and hid it under the couch like a treasure.

I checked the playroom the next morning—and there it was. Covered in stickers and glitter glue.

The screen was cracked.

We showed their mom, and her response was, “Well, you shouldn’t leave things where kids can reach them.”

I nearly screamed. It was in our locked room. They had gotten in.

That was the last straw.

We gave her a 30-day notice that we were moving out. Told her we’d stay civil, but we needed peace. She laughed in our faces.

“You’ll be back. You can’t afford to live alone.”

And honestly? I wasn’t sure she was wrong.

But then—here comes the twist—we didn’t have to.

Her ex-husband reached out.

Turns out, he was listed as an emergency contact for the kids, and the school had called him when one of the kids showed up without lunch—again.

He asked to meet us. Said he was trying to build a case for joint custody and heard we were living with her.

We were cautious at first, but he was calm, respectful, and just… sad.

“She used to be amazing,” he said. “But after the divorce, something shifted. She leans on everyone until they collapse.”

We told him everything. The chores, the broken laptop, the emotional manipulation. He nodded, thanked us, and said he’d handle it.

Two weeks later, child services showed up.

Apparently, her ex had filed for temporary custody and provided screenshots, text messages, and even some of the chore lists we’d saved. One of the kids had quietly recorded a conversation between her and the 14-year-old.

She wasn’t abusive—not in the traditional sense. But she was overburdening the kids emotionally. Making them feel guilty for not managing adult responsibilities.

It wasn’t just us. She was doing it to them, too.

The courts granted the father shared custody—at least temporarily—while the case was reviewed.

She didn’t take it well.

She screamed at us. Cursed us out in the driveway. Threw a coffee mug at the front door. The kids were with their dad when it happened, thankfully.

We called the landlord and reported the incident.

The next morning, she was given her own 30-day notice to vacate.

For the first time in months, we slept in peace.

We stayed in the house another month. It was quiet. Peaceful. We repainted the playroom and patched the crayon marks. The smell of spilled milk finally faded.

A few weeks after she left, we got a letter in the mail.

It was from the oldest boy.

“Thank you,” he wrote. “You helped us more than you know. I’m sorry about your laptop. I saw my sister do it, and I should have told you. But I was scared. My dad says it’s okay now.”

I cried reading that.

Not because of the apology—but because he understood.

Sometimes, people grow up faster than they should. That kid was more adult than his mom most days.

Later that year, we moved into a small one-bedroom closer to our jobs. It wasn’t fancy, but it was ours.

No chore lists. No sticky cereal bowls. Just peace.

I sometimes wonder how she’s doing now. If she ever got help. If she ever stopped seeing the world as a village she was owed, rather than one she had to contribute to.

I hope so. For the kids’ sake.

But what I learned most from that year is this:

Compassion doesn’t mean self-sacrifice.

You can care deeply without carrying someone else’s weight for them. Especially when they refuse to carry it themselves.

And boundaries? They’re not cruel. They’re the most loving thing you can set—for others and for yourself.

If you’ve ever felt guilted into giving more than you can, or been told that “helping” is your duty just because you’re present… I see you.

And I hope you know you’re allowed to say no.

You’re allowed to choose peace.

Has anyone ever pushed you past your limit under the name of “help”? Share your story below and hit like if you’ve ever had to take your peace back, too.