I was giving away several pairs of women’s shoes for free. Then a man called me and said he wanted to take all the shoes. He came and started whining that his daughter doesn’t wear heels, and neither does his wife, even though the photos were very clear. And an hour later, I saw the exact same shoes listed for sale on a local Facebook marketplace group, with his name on the ad.
It bugged me more than it should have. I wasn’t trying to make money, but something about someone taking advantage of a kind gesture didn’t sit right.
I had cleaned those shoes, picked out the best ones, and posted them hoping they’d go to someone who truly needed them. Not someone trying to flip them for a few bucks.
I clicked on his profile. Public. He had other listings too—baby clothes, toys, even some old electronics. It wasn’t illegal, but it felt wrong. I thought about messaging him, telling him off. But something held me back. Maybe I didn’t want to stir up unnecessary drama. Maybe I just needed to vent.
So, I posted about it anonymously in a community group, not naming him, just explaining what had happened. The post got a lot of reactions. Some people told me to ignore it—it wasn’t worth the stress. Others shared similar stories about giving things away and seeing them resold. But then one comment stood out.
A woman named Clara wrote: “That guy has done this before. He takes from every giveaway group. People think he’s in need, but he just sells everything. I stopped giving when I saw my kid’s old bike on his page.”
I messaged her privately, and we started talking. Clara had been in the same boat—donating things for the sake of kindness, only to be fooled.
She wasn’t bitter, but she was cautious now. “Give directly to people,” she advised. “There’s always someone who needs it. Just make sure it’s the right someone.”
It got me thinking. Maybe I could be more intentional next time. Instead of putting a generic “free” post up, I could ask who it’s for, maybe even get a feel for their situation. Not to judge, but to make sure kindness actually reached the right hands.
A few weeks later, I cleaned out my closet again. This time, it was winter coats and scarves. Instead of posting in the usual groups, I shared in a smaller, private one connected to a local shelter.
The admin messaged me, thanking me for being so thoughtful. She said they had a single mother with three daughters who had just left a bad situation and moved into temporary housing.
I packed everything in bags, added some snacks and coloring books for the kids, and dropped them off. I never met the woman, but the admin sent me a message the next day. “She cried when she saw the coats,” she wrote. “Said she hadn’t felt warm like this in months.”
That message stayed with me for days. Something about knowing it made a difference—that the things I no longer needed gave someone else comfort—felt… grounding. Like I had course-corrected a bit from that shoe incident.
But the story didn’t end there.
One morning, maybe a month later, I was at the grocery store. I had just grabbed some oranges when a little girl ran up to me, smiling wide. “You gave us the coats!” she said.
I was stunned. She looked familiar, only from the photo the admin had sent me after the donation. Her mom came rushing after her, apologizing. “She recognized your face from the picture we saw,” she explained, a bit embarrassed.
We chatted for a few minutes in the produce aisle. Her name was Sofia, and she’d just started at a new school. Her mom, Daniela, had gotten a part-time job cleaning houses and was trying to piece things back together.
She hugged me before we parted ways. “Thank you,” she said. “I didn’t have anyone, and then that bag showed up.”
As I walked away, I felt my chest tighten in the best way. That moment, raw and real, was worth every minor inconvenience I’d ever had from giving something away.
Now here’s where the twist comes in.
One Saturday, I was walking past a small community yard sale. I wasn’t planning to stop, but I saw a table with some books and wandered over. And there he was—the same man from before.
He was sitting behind the table with a sign that said “Everything Must Go!” I recognized some of the heels I’d given him, still unsold. They looked scuffed now, weathered. No one was even glancing at them.
Something in me decided to walk over.
He looked up. His face registered recognition but not much else. I smiled politely and asked, “Still trying to sell those shoes?”
He shifted awkwardly. “Yeah. Didn’t really get the interest I hoped.”
I paused, then said, “They were meant to be free, you know. For people who needed them.”
He looked down, then muttered, “Yeah… I wasn’t really in a good place back then. Lost my job. Thought maybe I could flip some stuff to get by.”
I wasn’t expecting him to be so honest. I softened a bit.
“You ever think about just giving them away?” I asked.
He looked at me, surprised. “What, like for free?”
“Yeah,” I said. “You’d be surprised how far that goes. I gave a few coats to a family, and now they’re doing better. It comes around.”
He didn’t say much, but he nodded.
The next week, I saw something interesting. On one of the same community pages, the man had posted a free listing: “Women’s shoes, lightly used. Hoping they go to someone who needs them.”
He didn’t mention me. Didn’t make a big story of it. Just… posted. And people responded.
I even saw a comment from a young woman thanking him, saying she had a job interview coming up and couldn’t afford new shoes. “These will help me feel confident,” she wrote.
I smiled at my phone. That felt good.
Months passed, and the ripple effect kept growing. I started a local group where people could give directly—no flipping allowed. We had a few rules: tell us who it’s for, share your story, take only what you need.
The group grew quickly. Strangers became neighbors. People started helping one another in small, meaningful ways.
One day, I saw Daniela—Sofia’s mom—post in the group. She had gotten a full-time job and wanted to give away her girls’ old clothes. “I was on the receiving end once,” she wrote. “Now I want to be on the giving side.”
I teared up reading that. Because that’s what it’s about. The cycle of kindness. The idea that even when people misuse your good intentions, it’s still worth doing good.
Because someone out there really needs it. And sometimes, they become the ones who give back the most.
And the man from before? His name is Marco, I found out. He volunteers at a weekly donation drive now. Not a lot of fanfare. Just shows up, helps carry bags, talks to people.
I once saw him helping a teenager pick out a dress for graduation. He looked proud.
We don’t talk much. But when we do, it’s friendly. No grudges. Life has a funny way of teaching people when they’re ready to listen.
And me? I keep giving. But smarter now. With heart, and eyes open.
Because sometimes the shoes you give away come back in a different form—a new friend, a warm hug, or a simple “thank you” that stays with you for a lifetime.
So here’s the thing.
People might take advantage. They might lie or flip or pretend. But some won’t. Some will take what you give and turn it into something beautiful. And you’ll never know unless you try.
So, if you’re thinking about giving—your time, your clothes, your kindness—do it. Do it because it matters. Because you’re planting seeds, even if you don’t get to see them grow right away.
And when life throws in a twist, like a man reselling your shoes, maybe that’s just part of the path that leads to something greater.
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