When Love Is Louder Than Pride

My wife and I have been trying to have a baby for the last 4 years. It’s been a really difficult process and we’ve had one miscarriage. We recently started IVF after saving up enough money. One of the things that needs to be done is my wife has to take certain medications including injections.

My mother had the audacity to say, “Maybe this is God’s way of telling you two to stop forcing it.” She said it with a shrug, like she was talking about the weather, not our biggest heartache.

My wife was in the next room when she said it. I saw the way her hand paused mid-air as she prepared her injections. She didn’t say anything, but I knew she’d heard.

We didn’t talk about it that night. She did her injection quietly, and I sat beside her, ashamed. Not of her — of my silence.

The next morning, I called my mom. I told her how cruel her words were, how she crossed a line. I expected a fight, but all she said was, “I just think you’re both chasing something unnatural.”

I hung up. I didn’t need that energy in our lives right now. My wife and I had a single focus: each other, and the tiny hope we were clinging to.

We started the hormone rounds, and the side effects hit hard. My wife had mood swings, headaches, nausea. Some nights she’d cry without even knowing why. I’d hold her, and we’d whisper reminders — that we were strong, that this would be worth it.

One day, she broke down at the pharmacy because they were out of one of the meds. She was shaking in the parking lot, apologizing like it was her fault. I held her face in my hands and said, “Hey. We’re in this together, remember?”

She nodded, but her eyes stayed sad. There’s something about IVF that can make even the closest couple feel helpless. You’re doing everything you can, but it still feels like a roll of the dice.

Weeks passed. We got to the egg retrieval stage. Six eggs. It felt like a victory. We celebrated with takeout and a dumb comedy movie, trying to ignore how nervous we were about the next steps.

Three of the embryos didn’t make it. That hit harder than I thought it would. My wife didn’t cry. She just stared at the wall for a long time and said, “Three chances… gone.”

The transfer was scheduled a week later. We had two healthy embryos left. One was transferred. One was frozen.

Then came the two-week wait. Those 14 days felt like months. Every little cramp, every twinge made us question everything.

During that wait, my mother reached out again. She sent a text: I still think you should adopt. It’s God’s way. I didn’t reply. Some bridges need time before they can be walked again.

The day of the pregnancy test, we sat in the clinic holding hands so tightly I lost feeling in my fingers.

The nurse came back smiling.

“We’re pregnant.”

Just like that. Two words that hit like thunder after a long drought.

My wife sobbed into my shirt. I cried too. We cried so hard the nurse gave us extra tissues and said, “Take your time.”

We drove home in silence, too overwhelmed to talk. At home, we laid on the bed and stared at the ceiling. She whispered, “Do you think this one will stay?”

“I do,” I said, even though I had the same fear.

The first ultrasound showed a tiny flicker. A heartbeat. We heard it like a song written just for us.

From there, we took it day by day. She was cautious, sometimes scared. But the weeks passed, and the baby grew.

At 12 weeks, we finally told our closest friends. There were cheers, hugs, a few tears.

I didn’t tell my mom. Not yet.

At 16 weeks, we found out we were having a girl. My wife smiled wider than I’d seen in years.

We painted the nursery soft yellow. My wife started crocheting little hats and socks. We hung paper stars from the ceiling.

One night, around 20 weeks, we were sitting on the porch when she said, “Do you ever think about telling your mom?”

I hesitated. “Sometimes. But I don’t want her negativity around this.”

She nodded, but later that night I saw her scrolling through old photos of us with my mom. I knew she missed her, even if she’d never say it.

At 24 weeks, my wife started having some pain. We rushed to the hospital. Thankfully, it was just round ligament pain — normal, they said. But it shook us.

I sent my mom a text: The baby is fine. Please don’t say anything that’ll make this harder.

She replied: I’ll keep my thoughts to myself. I want to meet my granddaughter.

That was the first time she’d acknowledged the baby as family. It softened something in me.

We invited her to the baby shower. She came. Quiet, reserved, but there. She brought a tiny pink blanket she’d knitted. My wife accepted it with a polite smile.

After the guests left, I asked how she felt about my mom being there.

“She’s trying,” she said. “I don’t forget what she said. But… maybe people can change.”

That stuck with me.

A few weeks before the due date, my mom asked if she could talk to us. We agreed.

She came over with an envelope. Inside was a letter.

It said she’d been wrong. That she didn’t understand IVF, and she’d let her own fears and beliefs make her cruel. She said seeing us together, seeing my wife’s strength, made her realize how much love this baby would have.

She ended the letter with: I want to be better. For her. For you.

My wife teared up. So did I.

We didn’t say much that night, but something shifted.

The day labor started was chaotic. We were watching TV when my wife said, “My back hurts… actually, wait— I think my water just broke.”

I panicked. She laughed through a contraction and said, “Babe, the hospital bag is by the door.”

Hours later, after intense labor, our daughter was born.

She had a head full of dark hair and the loudest cry I’ve ever heard.

We named her Amara. It means “grace.”

Holding her for the first time was like touching a miracle.

My wife looked at me with tired eyes and said, “We did it.”

I kissed her forehead. “You did it. I just panicked and held your hand.”

A week after we brought Amara home, my mom came to visit. She held her for the first time and whispered, “Welcome to the world, little one. You are so loved.”

It was the first time I saw my wife truly smile at my mom.

A month later, my wife surprised me. She said she’d asked my mom to help crochet a baby blanket together.

“It’s not about forgetting,” she said. “It’s about choosing peace.”

I didn’t know how much I needed that until I saw them at the table, yarn in hand, our daughter sleeping beside them.

We took a photo that day. It’s my favorite.

The three women I love most, all in one frame.

Looking back, I realize this journey wasn’t just about having a baby. It was about learning how to hold onto love when everything else falls apart.

About standing up for your partner. About forgiveness. About grace.

My mom messed up, badly. But she chose to own it. And my wife, who had every right to hold a grudge, chose to open her heart instead.

Now, every time I see Amara smile, I think of all the days we cried, all the shots, the pain, the doubt.

It was worth it.

Every bit.

So, if you’re reading this and you’re in your own long season of waiting — for a child, for healing, for peace — hold on.

People can surprise you. Hearts can change.

Sometimes, love just needs time.

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